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Inilah Alasan Kenapa Wanita Lebih Memilih untuk Menunggu daripada Mengungkapkan Perasaannya Lebih Dulu. Kamu Laki-laki Wajib Tahu!

besoksenin.co – Menurutku, menjadi seorang wanita bukanlah hal yang mudah. Kamu pernah atau sering dengar istilah, “mencintai dalam diam” atau “diam-diam mencintai dia”? Yups, itu adalah keahlian wanita. Memendam perasaan sendirian dan mengelolanya agar tidak ketahuan. Meski tak jarang laki-laki pun sebenarnya ada yang mengalaminya. Ngaku aja ngaku! Hanya keunggulannya, laki-laki itu lebih punya leluasa untuk memulai semuanya duluan, karena memang sudah lumrahnya begitu. Makanya ada yang mengatakan, “laki-laki itu memilih bukan menunggu”. Meski wanita juga punya hak memilih, memilih untuk menolak atau menerima.

Rasanya biasa kalau mendengar laki-laki ditolak cintanya, tapi menjadi tak biasa kalau justru wanita yang ditolak cintanya. Wanita akan merasa harga dirinya tercabik-cabik. Bagi wanita, berani mengungkapkan perasaan duluan adalah hal yang tabu dilakukan. Makanya wanita harus berpura-pura biasa, padahal dalam hati ada rasa yang tak biasa. Ia juga harus menahan diri, mengelola hati, bahkan bersandiwara untuk tetap terlihat biasa. Kenapa? Karena ada rasa malu, takut, gengsi, semuanya campur aduk menjadi hal yang sesungguhnya sangat menyesakkan dada.

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Wanita lebih memilih diam daripada mengungkapkan. Itulah sebabnya wanita lebih banyak menunggu daripada harus maju duluan. Misalnya nge-chat kamu duluan, menyapa kamu duluan, apalagi kalau harus mengungkapkan perasaan duluan. Wanita paling enggan melakukannya. Ia hanya akan bergelut dengan kode-kode tak karuan yang mungkin saja akan berakhir sia-sia.

Tapi di sisi lain, laki-laki jaman now sangat mudah mengumbar gombalan. Bahkan kini laki-laki baik dan laki-laki PHP (Pemberi Harapan Palsu) sulit dibedakan. Jika wanita mulai terbawa perasaan, mereka dengan mudahnya mengatakan “Aaaah kamu mah baperan!” Seolah-olah yang dirasakan wanita adalah kesalahpahaman saja. Padahal, bukankah tidak akan ada asap kalau tidak ada api? Wanita juga butuh kepastian. Kalau memang tak cinta, kamu tak perlu mengumbar perhatian atau gombalan yang memang menurutmu itu tak berarti apa-apa.

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Wahai para wanita yang mungkin merasakan hal yang sama. Kamu tak perlu sedih, risau, ataupun galau. Apa yang kamu lakukan saat ini adalah hal yang benar. Kamu tak akan menyesal menyimpan perasaan kepada seseorang yang belum tentu menjadi jodohmu. Kamu memang tak perlu mengungkapkan perasaan kepada seseorang yang belum halal untukmu, karena Allah juga melarangnya.

“Dan janganlah kalian mendekati zina; Sesungguhnya zina itu adalah suatu perbuatan yang keji. dan suatu jalan yang buruk.” (Al-Israa’: 32)

Jika kamu merasa malu untuk mengatakannya, maka itu hal yang bagus. Malumu bukan sesuatu yang memalukan. Justru malumu bisa menjagamu dari hal-hal yang tidak boleh dilakukan. Karena sesungguhnya malu itu adalah sebagian dari iman.

“Iman memiliki lebih dari tujuh puluh atau enam puluh cabang. Cabang yang paling tinggi adalah perkataan ‘Lâ ilâha illallâh,’ dan yang paling rendah adalah menyingkirkan duri (gangguan) dari jalan. Dan malu adalah salah satu cabang Iman.” (HR.al-Bukhâri no. 598 dan Muslim no. 35)

So, sekarang mah kamu tinggal pilih. Mau seperti Khadijah yang (melamar) mengungkapkan perasaannya duluan kepada Rasulullah shalallahu’alaihi wasallam melalui seorang utusan, atau mau seperti Fatimah yang bersabar menjaga hatinya dan mencintai dalam diam hingga Allah datangkan Ali kepadanya?

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